Common Excuses for Violence


There are many myths around relationship violence such as that the victims behavior is to blame or that violence is caused by substance abuse, stress and poverty.  Other common excuses given:
  • That is not abuse
  • That is not violence
  • I was just joking
  • I had a bad day
  • I’m tired
  • I’m stressed
  • You made me upset
  • You push my buttons
  • You made me jealous
  • It’s your fault – it is what you do to me
  • I just snapped
  • I had a bad childhood
  • It won’t happen again
  • I’m sorry
  • You deserved it
  • I was drunk
  • I should be more important than your friends/family
  • I didn’t mean to hurt you
  • I love you
  • I love you too much